Saturday

hellos

good morning

today watched television in the morning, when my dad came home, we started preparing lunch. I cut the fish cake, char siew , and carrot. We had fried bee hoon for lunch.

Damn tired sia, Had a break. ( took power nap) . Now i am writing this, seriously i miss someone alot. Really wished that we could spend more time together playing games and letting time pass . The sad thing is he is too busy. Hais. 

Need to prepare dinner now. Gtg .bb

Take caress (:

Tatum ,Aini,  Priti dun tire urself too much & enjoy ur holidays.

Muaixxs xD

Love yah ! =D

Last DAy of Term 2

hellos
last day of school today (:
Yipee!
Damn high sia....
but then got GuZheng practice.
Had Guzheng practice till 3.30pm.
Went to Mrs Laila 's room to rest after school. Then played games after Guzheng lessons till 5.30pm. Went to play after that.
going home sleep later.
Btw, my youngest bro banned me from using com from yesterday . Had to be patient for a week. Wait . wait, wait. Till the banning thingy is over.He added password to the computer. Shit ! I have to wait for a week. That is so long sia. Hais. Boring life.
Using com now, hahas. dun tell you where i use. Guess it urself.
bb

Art Fiesta Rehearsal

hellos

today, it was the first rehearsal. Very tired since yesterday. Couldn't high much lah. Wished that "it" would go away. i don't want to stay emo. 

Hais

Want to be happy not happy, then sad, then happy, then sad, then happy then sad....... damn emo sia ,HAving two feelings on the same day .Split second change. So emo.

My exam results

Combined Humanities - A2

English - C5

Economics - F9 

so sad....

i took a POWER NAP today again. Wished that i could really rest well & be HAppy even when the thingy comes. 

BB

HAve to go now.

Be happy ! xD

Grandma's Stay

hellos

went to stay at my grandma's house from Sat to Sun.

Felt happy. xD

Now, moody.

Saw my exam results.

A-maths - A2

E-maths - A2

Science ( Chem) - A2

Science ( Physics) - C6

Chinese- B3

moody, depressed, sad. hais

This is not me !!!

I wonder what is awaiting me ....

Hope that tommorow will be a better day for me . =D

Btw, Julie going back to Korea tmr. 

Will miss her.

Hope that she would have a great time in Singapore.

Good Luck in your studies in Korea.

Bye Bye .

Love yah ! xD

Happy birthday , Yenling xD

hellos

here , wishing you a happy bday.

Today, i 've turned 15.

Wow, time passed real fast.

I enjoyed myself the whole day.

In the morning, thanks a lot to Priti , Mei Jin , Ying Yee & Caroline.

In the afternoon, stayed really long to teach Jerry Buddhism & we played some games. ( etc. UNO, then taught him how to make a cube ) - really very cute one . Taught for quite long, after that, went to Guzheng room to write things for Lin Lao Shi.

Went home around 5pm, then opened presents. Got a cute pooh bear from the Guzheng ppl. Thanks =D

Ate dinner then cut cake.

looking quite forward to next Mon & Tues, going to know the exam results.

Oo....

Hope they are gd ones.I look forward to As and nothing else.

To my friends

Hi, long time no see.

Hope that you are fine in your class.

May you be well & Happy ! xD

Happy Advanced bday , yenling xD

hellos

didn't sleep well for the past two nights.

I was thinking of many, many things.

I bottled my feelings up and now, i am terrible, miserable, gloomy.

Hais

sad =(

Wishing to be happy. xD

Aini & Me

hellos

Welcome to my blog @

www.hbm-cherrylemon.blogspot.com

I am Yenling, and She's Aini.

This is my first picture that i 've post .

( Which is really me & my friend)

Other pictures that i've post,

can you see me ???

NO. 

Picture taken :  HLC & PREFECTS investiture  

Outside staff room, b4 it started.

Let's countdown to my bday.

That's like 1,2, 3 days.

OHHH !!! I am getting pretty excited.

BTW, i going fly kite. xD

9 Things You Can Do to Be Happy in the Next 30 Minutes

9 Things You Can Do to Be Happy in the Next 30 Minutes

Surprising ways to instantly improve your mood.by Gretchen Rubin

Being happier doesn't have to be a long-term ambition. You can start right now. In the next 30 minutes, tackle as many of the following suggestions as possible. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you've achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood. 

1. Raise your activity level to pump up your energy. If you're on the phone, stand up and pace. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Put more energy into your voice. Take a brisk 10-minute walk. Even better... 

2. Take a walk outside. Research suggests that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve mood. For an extra boost, get your sunlight first thing in the morning. 

3. Reach out. Send an e-mail to a friend you haven't seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Having close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel more friendly toward you, but you'll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people. 

4. Rid yourself of a nagging task. Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation. 

5. Create a more serene environment. Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organizing bills and tackling the piles in the kitchen. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer for 10 minutes and see what you can do. 

6. Do a good deed. Introduce two people by e-mail, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. In fact, you can also...

7. Save someone's life. Sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. Do good, feel good―it really works! 

8. Act happy. Fake it 'til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you're smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable. 

9. Learn something new. Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest! Pick a topic that reallyinterests you, not something you think you "should" or "need to" learn about. 

Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal, but in fact, research shows that happier people are more sociable, likable, healthy, and productive―and they're more inclined to help other people. By working to boost your own happiness, you're making other people happier, too. 

What’s Your Anger Style?

Sixteen ways to manage your frustration, whether you have a quick temper or a biting sense of humor.

Anger Style: Explosive

What it looks like: "If you leave your jacket on the floor one more time, I'm leaving you!" It may take a lot to push you over the edge, but when you get there, the earth shakes and people run for cover.
 

Why you might do it: If you were never taught how to deal with irritation, you may habitually swallow it until you can swallow no more. Eventually your top will blow. Some people are anger junkies, who get off on the adrenaline rush of an emotional explosion, not to mention the fact that the onslaught can mean they get their way―at least in the short term.
 

The damage: It is virtually impossible to feel empathy and anger simultaneously, so in the heat of the moment, you are more likely to say and do overly harsh things that you later regret.
 

How to Turn It Around 
 

• Wait it out. "Research has shown that the neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds," says Ronald Potter-Efron, Ph.D., an anger-management specialist in Eau Claire, Wisconsin, and a coauthor of Letting Go of Anger. Beyond that, it takes a commitment to stay angry. Mentally recite the Pledge of Allegiance or count to 10 and see if the urge to explode has diminished.
• Own your emotions. A simple rephrasing of your feelings can help you feel more in control. "I'm really upset by your behavior" is much more effective and empowering than %#*&@!.

 

Anger Style: Self-Abuse

What it looks like: "It's my fault he doesn't help me. I'm a terrible wife." You find a way to make everything your fault, every single time.

Why you might do it: Somewhere along the line, your self-esteem took a beating and you decided that sometimes it's just safer and easier to be mad at yourself than at someone else.

The damage: Constantly turning angry feelings inward can set you up for continued disappointments and even depression.

How to Turn It Around

• Question yourself. Every time you feel the urge to assume blame, start by asking yourself, "Who told me I was responsible for this?" Then ask, "Do I really believe that?" Instead of accepting all responsibility, thank yourself for recognizing the pattern in the first place.
• Work on your self-worth. Make a list of your positive qualities. Developing a genuine sense of worthiness is a critical step in overcoming self-blame. Seek out a professional if you need more help in working around this issue.

• Anger Style: Avoidance

  What it looks like: "I'm fine. It's fine. Everything's fine." Even when there's a fireball of rage burning in your gut, you paste on a happy face and dodge any display of irritation. This isn't passive aggression; it's buried aggression.
  
  Why you might do it: "Women in particular are told over and over again to be nice no matter what. Get angry and you could lose your reputation, marriage, friends, or job," says Potter-Efron. If you grew up in a volatile or abusive home, you may not believe anger can be controlled or expressed calmly.
  
  The damage: The primary function of anger is to signal that something is amiss and encourage resolution. By ignoring that warning sign, you may end up engaging in self-destructive behaviors (overeating, excessive shopping). You're also basically giving the green light to other people's bad behavior or denying them the opportunity to make amends. How can they apologize if they don't know you've been hurt?
  
  How to Turn It Around

  • Challenge your core beliefs. Ask yourself, "Is it really fine for my employees to leave early whenever they want? For my partner to go golfing every weekend?" If you're honest, the resounding answer to these questions is probably "You know what? It's not fine." Recognizing that something is wrong is the first step to setting it right. 
  • Step outside yourself. Imagine that a friend is the one being abused, overworked, or neglected. What would be the appropriate way for her to respond? Make a list of actions she might take, then ask yourself why it is OK for her, but not you, to react that way. 
  • Embrace healthy confrontation. Someone ticked you off? Tell the person―in a positive, constructive way. Yes, he or she might be surprised, possibly even (gasp!) angered, by your words. And you know what? He or she will get over it. "Avoidance often does more damage to families and friendships than any expression of anger," says Potter-Efron.

   

  Anger Style: Sarcasm

  What it looks like: "It's OK that you're late. I had time to read the menu―40 times." You find a roundabout way of getting your digs in, with a half smile. 
  
  Why you might do it: You were probably raised to believe that expressing negative emotions directly isn't OK, so you take a more indirect route. If folks get mad, it's their fault, not yours. After all, you were just kidding. Can't people take a joke? 
  
  The damage: Even though couched in wit, your cutting comments can damage your relationships. Although some people insist that mockery is a form of intellectual humor, the very word sarcasm is related to the Greek word sarkazein, meaning "to tear flesh like dogs." Ouch. 
  
  How to Turn It Around
  
  
  • Give it to them straight. "Sarcasm is passive-aggressive communication," explains Todd. Find words to express how you feel head-on. You might explain to a tardy friend, say, after you're seated, "I wish you would try to be on time, especially when you know we have limited time."
  • Be firm and clear. This is especially true with children, to whom a gentle "Jumping on the furniture is not acceptable" sends a much clearer message than the snarky "Don't worry―we just happen to have $2,000 set aside for a new sofa."
  • Speak up before you get bitter. Exercising assertiveness prior to arriving at your breaking point can help prevent a sarcastic streak from popping out.

  • Anger Style: Passive-Aggressive

    
    What it looks like: "Oops. Did I delete all those old baseball games from the TiVo?" You don't hide or swallow your anger, but you express it in an underhanded way.
     

    Why you might do it: You dislike confrontation, but you're no pushover, either. "People become 'anger sneaks' when they believe they can't stand up to others," says Potter-Efron. Some people who are cautious by nature turn to this style when they feel pushed outside their comfort zones.
     

    The damage: You frustrate people. Todd puts it another way: "You're living your life around making sure other people don't get what they want, instead of striving for what would make you happy." The bottom line: No one wins.
     

    How to Turn It Around
     

    • Give yourself permission to get angry. Tell yourself that anger is your psyche's way of saying you're tired of being pushed around. A mantra: Assertiveness is fine; aggression (passive or otherwise) is not.
    • Advocate for yourself. Instead of "forgetting" to turn in your report at work or showing up late to meetings, gather your courage and tell your boss that your workload has gotten too heavy or that you're having an issue with a coworker. It won't be easy, but neither is looking for another job.
    • Take control. If you turn to passive aggression when you're uncomfortable with what's expected of you, it's important to do something to take the reins of your situation. Unable to manage the house or the finances solo? Rather than doing a haphazard job of it (subconsciously, of course), tell your partner how important it is that he contributes.
       

     

    Anger Style: Habitual Irritation
     

    What it looks like: "I am sick and tired of you borrowing my stapler! Get your own!" This is often less a reaction to events and more a default option. It's always on unless you consciously turn it off.
     

    Why you might do it: If your discontent dwells directly below the surface and is constantly seeping through, there's probably resentment, regret, or frustration boiling beneath. Maybe your coworker got the promotion and you didn't. Or your marriage is falling apart and you're not sure why.
     

    The damage: If you're always ready to blow, friends, family, and coworkers may take great pains to avoid upsetting you. Or they may avoid you altogether. The most likely result? No progress―you stay stuck in the same vicious cycle.
     

    How to Turn It Around
     

    • Get to the heart of it. What are you really mad about? If you dig deep, you'll realize it probably isn't about a stapler―or dirty socks on the floor, or an empty milk carton in the refrigerator, or any of the other small things that make you so frustrated. Consider professional intervention if you can't get to the bottom of it on your own.
    • Tune in to anger clues. Become aware of the actions and feelings associated with your irritation. When you're enraged, do you ball your hands into fists? Pace around the room? Grumble, swear, or grit your teeth? As you identify and experience each physiological response, make a mindful effort to do something―anything―else.
    • Visualize peace. Try this technique to stop rising anger before it overtakes you. Imagine your breath as a wave, a surge of color, or even a breeze. Watch it come in and out; optimally each breath will be deep and quiet. Hear yourself speaking calmly and softly to yourself and to others. Your anger reflex should diminish another degree each time you do this imaging.
    • http://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/best-manage-your-anger-00000000009959/page3.html
      

How to Deal with Anger Gracefully =D

How to Deal With Anger Gracefully

Even in times when full-on anger is justified, social protocol sometimes prevents you from truly venting. Here, how to express yourself without coming off like a hothead or a doormat.

Smile.You can’t work yourself into a rage without an angry face. Relax the muscles in your jaw, forehead, and lips to keep cool, then eke out a grin.

Look ahead. Will this thing matter in five minutes? Five months? Five years? If not, why bother wasting energy on it?

Put yourself in charge. Saying “I am choosing not to get angry about this” (or the opposite) can be empowering.

Adopt a more flexible philosophy of life. A few truths: Things won’t always go your way. Accidents happen. The world is an imperfect place.Repeat as necessary.

Think of the harm you may cause. Say your child comes home past his curfew. Your options are screaming (outcome: an ugly late-night shouting match) or telling him that you’re quite upset and that you’ll talk first thing in the morning (outcome: a more coherent and calm discussion).http://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/stress/how-to-deal-with-anger-gracefully-10000001779614/index.html

Happy Mother's DAy xD

To mummy
Happy Mother's Day !!! =D

May you be well & HAPPY !! XD

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY !

HAPPY VESAK DAY =DD

hellos

it's a public holiday today xD

YiPee! So, here i am blogging. I have been studying since morning and i went to a temple in sengkang for lunch. Came back to study after that. Well , life's kinda boring nowadays. HAis, all that i am doing now is - studying .

Well. let's look on the bright side. Life isn't that boring. It is only this time period. After the exams, let's call for a celebrarion. =]

gtg now

bb

take caress xD

good luck to all for ur coming exAms

and stay optimistic

life isn't that bad after all. =D

yenling (:

SA1

OH !!

I 've screwed up my physics paper!! Gosh !!

It was a killer paper!! :P

AHHHHHHH !!!!! Somebody save me !!!

I was totally killed by it! Oh, i am so gonna die xP

Oh well , lets forget abt it, btw, Samuel birthday was over. His bday was on 5th MAy. HAis. Nv give friend present, oh well , lets forget abt that too ! Samuel. Happy belated Birthday ! 

I went home and took a power nap. OH , that was really long. 3 hrs.

Now, i am studying my econs, i can't fail it this time. or I am so goona die XP

I am revising my chemistry too. The Sc ( Physics) paper was of O level standard. Well , the Mr Tan ( HOD of science) set it. Couldn't say much. :X

Btw , my birthday is coming soon. MAybe in 2 weeks time. XD

Gtg . Bye Bye. take caress ! =]

Schooling xD

hellos
been missing HS GuZheng ensemble recently.
all the fun we had together, now having SA1 then missing it lor. HAis, need wait until exams are over.Miss the BBQ. So funny . Enjoyed myself that day . When i am with the HS GuZheng ensemble, i will feel very happy. Especially when Jocelyn is around. That is where most of our joy come from, : the entertainers. =D
Btw, tmr is Julie's Birthday.
Julie , wishing you a Happy Advanced Birthday !! =D

I want to have guzheng practices, hais, everyone now so busy. After exams, i will practice GuZheng . Yippee !! =]
gtg now
take caress , everyone xD

Sa1

hellos

Today , Labour DAy xD

No need go school =D

so glad , btw, i studying for Sa1 exams now, been busy recently, hardly blogged.

Goal

English B3

Chinese B3

Emaths A1

Amaths A1

Social Studies A2

Geography A2

Science (Physics) B3

Science ( Chemistry ) B3

My CA2 Msg so high, so i have been working hard recently. xD
The MSG was 4.29 . Whoo ! I almost fainted.lols. My Econs & Amaths pulled the grades mah, can't help it . All the rest were Bs and the Combined Humanitites got A2. Then Econs & Amaths got D7.

To my GuZheng Juniors : thanks for the wonderful encouragements . I love ya ! =D

I will strive hard and take care of myself ! Jiayouss for ur exams too ......

I gtg now.

Will celebrate our success after SA1 ! We got GOLD ! =]

Good Luck & Take cares ! (;

Counting down to my birthday ! 20 days from now ! =D